I'm an optimistic person. Sometimes, however, I'm too optimistic. I believe that there is such a thing as being TOO positive that you're hindered from thinking realistically, having a healthy internal emotional balance, and dealing appropriately with certain situations. I'll explain.
This semester during my junior year, a lot of things have happened familially, socially, and academically that overwhelmed me. There is quite a bit going on at home, what with financial setbacks and mental illness among several members in my family. Socially, I've run into a few sticky situations that I never asked to be a part of, and in these same situations I learned a few things about myself. (One important realization is that I too easily and quickly let go of things that others have done to wrong me.) Academically, despite the fact that I’ve lost much sleep striving for a solid GPA, I still feel that I haven't yet reached the level of raging tenacity that's required for my rigorous courseload.
I don't think I've yet found a way to handle these things well. In an earlier entry I wrote that my sister once told me that at Cornell, you can only have two of three things at one time: good grades, sleep, or a social life. One of my friends was recently speaking to a triple major (yes, a TRIPLE major) and he asked him, “How do you DO it?” The guy responded with a straight face, “I don’t sleep.”
I know that my one major, double minor, and pre-medical courseload probably isn't as demanding as the student with three majors, but it’s demanding nonetheless, and the struggle to find a balance between adequate sleep, a social life, and good grades isn’t even as big of a struggle when compared to the struggle itself for good grades. At least that's how it feels.
Here's another balance all undergraduates need to maintain. I think this may be the most important. When I'm stressed out and burdened, I make use of my many outlets: prayer, family, friends, my journal, and even this blog. This helps preserve my emotional well-being. Another important component of fostering positive mental health as a student is maintaining healthy relationships and interactions with others. One thing that I've come to realize about myself this year is that, although, for the most part, I get along well with everyone I cross paths with, I am so insistent about avoiding conflicts (because that’s what I believe emotionally healthy and mature people do) that I’ve forgotten about my own feelings and sense of well-being. If someone steps on my toe, I don’t even notice, but if someone crushes my foot, I act like it’s no big deal and fail to properly address it.
It probably won’t surprise you when I say that, because of this personality trait of mine, people have taken advantage of me. The challenge of addressing this lies in becoming a more forward and assertive individual.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this semester is that things are going to happen throughout our lives that disappoint and hurt us tremendously, but it will do us no good to pout and marinate on the bad. I’ve experienced many difficulties with my family, academically and in a couple of relationships/friendships, and I have made the mistake of dwelling too much on what’s saddened me that it resulted in horrible effects on my emotional stability. We have to remember that everything happens for a reason (and not for you to feel terrible or beat yourself up, or anyone else for that matter). Let's learn and grow from our negative experiences. Embrace them, and welcome these opportunities to become a stronger individual. Tough times never last, but tough people do.
Saturday, December 21, 2013
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
Chilean Spanish
After spending the last couple of months in Chile, I thought it appropriate to highlight the uniqueness of the language. It’s not just Spanish, but it’s a certain type that’s so different from the Spanish spoken elsewhere in Latin America and Spain. It even has its own name among Chileans: “el chileno." “Entiendes el chileno?” [Do you understand Chilean Spanish?] one of the workers at the rehabilitation center asked me one day, to which I responded honestly with the best Chilean accent I could muster, “Sí, ma’ o meno’”. (Yes, more or less). It’s very different from any other type of Spanish because of the unique accent, the speed at which it’s spoken, and all the slang.
There are a lot of “modismos” [idioms] aka “slang words" if you will. A ton. That’s what makes the language so hard to learn and become accustomed to.
Here are some examples. The words to the left are “chilenismos”, and the ones in the middle are standard Spanish.
· Hartos/hartas - muchos/muchas [a lot]
· Pololo/polola - novio/novia [boyfriend/girlfriend]
· Guata - panza [belly]
· Guagua - bebé [baby]
See how it’s so different? And these words (to the left) are unique to Chile. There are tons more, but I don't want to bore you.
I have one story that speaks to the speed of Chilean Spanish and how difficult it is for foreigners to understand. The other two interns and I took a taxi to the airport for our flight back to Punta Arenas from Santiago in late July. At the beginning of the drive, the driver talks to us and tries to make conversation, but he was speaking extremely fast, faster than any other Chilean I’d met in all of my time there. At one point he says, “Qué tal? Divirtieron?” [How was it? Did you have a good time?], and I had no idea what he said until literally 5 minutes later when I processed the words. It just sounded like, “Quetaldivirtieron”... Not even in the form of a question. I laughed nervously and told him, “Mmm...no entiendo, perdón” [I don’t understand, sorry]. He stopped talking altogether after that haha
There are a lot of “modismos” [idioms] aka “slang words" if you will. A ton. That’s what makes the language so hard to learn and become accustomed to.
Here are some examples. The words to the left are “chilenismos”, and the ones in the middle are standard Spanish.
· Hartos/hartas - muchos/muchas [a lot]
· Pololo/polola - novio/novia [boyfriend/girlfriend]
· Guata - panza [belly]
· Guagua - bebé [baby]
See how it’s so different? And these words (to the left) are unique to Chile. There are tons more, but I don't want to bore you.
I have one story that speaks to the speed of Chilean Spanish and how difficult it is for foreigners to understand. The other two interns and I took a taxi to the airport for our flight back to Punta Arenas from Santiago in late July. At the beginning of the drive, the driver talks to us and tries to make conversation, but he was speaking extremely fast, faster than any other Chilean I’d met in all of my time there. At one point he says, “Qué tal? Divirtieron?” [How was it? Did you have a good time?], and I had no idea what he said until literally 5 minutes later when I processed the words. It just sounded like, “Quetaldivirtieron”... Not even in the form of a question. I laughed nervously and told him, “Mmm...no entiendo, perdón” [I don’t understand, sorry]. He stopped talking altogether after that haha
I made it a goal for the remainder of my 3 weeks here to practice my comprehension of Chilean Spanish as much as possible. Including watching Germán (Er-man), a guy from Chile whose videos on YouTube went viral and turned into both a national and international sensation. He now ends up making half a million dollars a year from them :)
If this isn't good practice, I don't know what is.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_586767761&feature=iv&src_vid=CG50cPXuwZ0&v=pCJqZLaiySU
If this isn't good practice, I don't know what is.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_586767761&feature=iv&src_vid=CG50cPXuwZ0&v=pCJqZLaiySU
Final adventures
Torres del Paine |
Trekking with our homestay family. I am in the middle
with the brown jacket.
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These past couple of weeks, we went hiking, trekking, and snowboarding in Patagonia Chile!
Last Saturday we went to Torres del Paine, one of the largest and most visited parks in Chile that contains mountains, glaciers, lakes, and rivers. This was an all day trip that involved a little hiking, but mostly site seeing in a tour bus with about 7 other Chileans.
Two Saturdays ago we went trekking with our host family. By the end of it, our host parents were worn down and tired from the walk, but this walk was NOTHING compared to the hike I did with Tessa and her friend at La Campana (one of the top 5 national parks in Chile).
“Esto es nada en comparación a La Campana,” (This is nothing compared to La Campana), I told them as we were walking to the parking lot. “Todo el camino es subir!” (The entire walk is uphill!) I said, making an upward movement with my hand.
My host mom gasps, “Qué terrrible!” and my host dad goes, “Whoaa!”
Last Saturday we went to Torres del Paine, one of the largest and most visited parks in Chile that contains mountains, glaciers, lakes, and rivers. This was an all day trip that involved a little hiking, but mostly site seeing in a tour bus with about 7 other Chileans.
Two Saturdays ago we went trekking with our host family. By the end of it, our host parents were worn down and tired from the walk, but this walk was NOTHING compared to the hike I did with Tessa and her friend at La Campana (one of the top 5 national parks in Chile).
“Esto es nada en comparación a La Campana,” (This is nothing compared to La Campana), I told them as we were walking to the parking lot. “Todo el camino es subir!” (The entire walk is uphill!) I said, making an upward movement with my hand.
My host mom gasps, “Qué terrrible!” and my host dad goes, “Whoaa!”
~*~
Snowboarding at a resort with Tessa in
Punta Arenas
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The biggest challenge for me was snowboarding. The thought of going snowboarding in Patagonia Chile sounded awesome, but I had absolutely no idea that it would be so difficult. I must’ve fallen a million times. I’d never gone snowboarding before in my life, so it was a little foolish to rent out all of the necessary material (snowboard & shoes) without knowing how to do it. Again, no idea it would be that hard, and I thought that with Tessa (who is a snowboarding instructor back in Seattle) and our host sister’s boyfriend who’s pretty much a pro, that everything would be alright. Well, it was, but I didn’t want them to spend all their time with me and rob them of the chance to go out on their own and have fun. I tried to learn for a little bit on my own but eventually gave up. I knew that if I kept going I would seriously hurt myself, so I just collapsed in the snow with the chilling wind whipping past me.
My North Face was struggling to fight the cold, but it was still doing a pretty good job of keeping my torso relatively warm. My extremities went completely numb. I was afraid I’d get frostbite, but I still lay on the ground, unsure of what my next move should be. I had no idea which way to go to get back to the cabins at the resort down below, and Tessa and Rodrigo left me a long time ago. I heard a distant voice calling out, “Disculpa, estás bien?!” [Excuse me, are you alright?] I lifted up my head, turned, and saw in the distance two women and several kids staring at me. This looked like a snowboarding class. I was too cold to be embarrassed. They must’ve been calling me for the longest time, but I couldn’t hear anything because of the wind. “Estás bien?” One of the women yells at me again. “Sí, estoy bien, gracias!” [Yeah, I’m good, thanks!] I shout, and fall back to the ground again, laughing to myself. They probably thought I was dead.
I eventually get up, take my shoes out of the snowboard, and walk any which way down the mountain to try and find the cabins. Success in 10 minutes. On the way down I struggled internally with whether or not I should’ve continued with learning on my own. I decided against it.
My North Face was struggling to fight the cold, but it was still doing a pretty good job of keeping my torso relatively warm. My extremities went completely numb. I was afraid I’d get frostbite, but I still lay on the ground, unsure of what my next move should be. I had no idea which way to go to get back to the cabins at the resort down below, and Tessa and Rodrigo left me a long time ago. I heard a distant voice calling out, “Disculpa, estás bien?!” [Excuse me, are you alright?] I lifted up my head, turned, and saw in the distance two women and several kids staring at me. This looked like a snowboarding class. I was too cold to be embarrassed. They must’ve been calling me for the longest time, but I couldn’t hear anything because of the wind. “Estás bien?” One of the women yells at me again. “Sí, estoy bien, gracias!” [Yeah, I’m good, thanks!] I shout, and fall back to the ground again, laughing to myself. They probably thought I was dead.
I eventually get up, take my shoes out of the snowboard, and walk any which way down the mountain to try and find the cabins. Success in 10 minutes. On the way down I struggled internally with whether or not I should’ve continued with learning on my own. I decided against it.
~*~
I also spent some time rock climbing at a gym where my host sister works. This activity is much more fun and challenging than I'd anticipated
I'm glad I was able to engage in activities that I don’t usually do or get the chance to do back home. School always takes over during the academic terms. What a fun summer!
Monday, August 19, 2013
Interesting & shaking events in Chile
One
day during my shadowing rotation in the Language School of the rehabilitation
center, a little girl (who was maybe about 6 years old) ran
up to me, looked at me with wide, bulging eyes, and said, “Por qué estás así?!”
(Why are you like that?) while
running a finger down my cheek. “Qué te pasó?” (What happened to you?) she continued asking, running another finger
along my collarbone. I couldn’t help but laugh at her shock. “Es el color de mi
piel,” (It’s the color of my skin) I
told her.
This will stick with me forever. I’ve never encountered anyone - not even a child - who
expressed such open shock at my appearance, or anyone who hadn’t before seen
another black individual (whether in person or in the media). Not many blacks
are found in the region (except for perhaps some Dominicans, some of whom have
come to actually work in the sex industry. Yikes). I wish I had a little
more time to clearly explain to the girl where I was from and why my skin
appeared that way, but I was in transit to another class so I didn’t get the
chance. It's important to enlighten others, especially young ones who
haven’t before been exposed to certain things, including people of other races.
~*~
In
late July, one of the other interns, Tessa, and I took a two-day trip to La Serena
during our week off from work. On our second day before our night bus back to
Santiago, we went to the movies to kill some time. (We ended
up watching Wolverine). While waiting
in line, the most surprising thing happened. A young black girl, who couldn't have been more than 15, came up to me and asked me in fluent Spanish to purchase a
ticket for her. I said, “Sí, claro” (Yes, of course), took the money from her,
and continued to wait my spot in line, which was about 20 people from the
front. I turned to her as she walked away to join what I assumed was her
family. I had so many questions. “Why’d she ask me and not
someone further up in the line?” I think this aloud to Tessa. We
both knew though. The girl had no idea who I was, where I was from, or even if
I spoke any Spanish, but she felt comfortable enough to just walk up to me, someone who she could identify with, and ask this small favor. Whether her roots are African-American, African,
Afro-Caribbean, I have no idea (maybe Brazilian? Who knows). But she was black,
and likely an adopted child of a Chilean family.
~*~
During our trip to La Serena, I thought I’d go half blind. It
happened on our way up to the Cruz del Tercer Milenio (Cross of the Third
Millennium) in Coquimbo, Chile. This is the tallest monument in South America
and the only one worldwide built to recognize Jesus Christ’s crucifixion. We rode our bikes all the way along the coast from La Serena, the
neighboring town. Our ride had to turn into a walk because the streets became
too steep. Tessa and I pushed our bikes up the hill to reach the cross. Now that was a workout. We were
drenched in sweat once we reached the top. There were another two or three sets
of stairs we had to climb before reaching the cross and the entry point to its
museum. I was running low on energy to physically carry my bike up the first
flight of steps, but I attempted to anyway.
As I picked up my bike, and before I
even took my first step, gravity caused the handlebars to twist and one of them got me smack
dab in my right eye. They were rubber, but it was still painful. I yelled out and
dropped the bike as my hand flew up to my eye. A few people in the area walked
over and called out to me, asking if I was alright. Tessa was already ahead of
me and couldn’t hear or see what was going on from the top of the
stairs. When I opened my eyes again I felt something liquidy on my right
cheekbone. I started to freak out because I thought I was bleeding. It was
actually my contact lens, which I tried carefully to place in the palm of
my hand, but it fell on the ground instead. This is when the freaking out was
in full swing. I basically couldn’t see out of my right eye (I could only see blur; my eyesight is terrible) and my contact lens pretty much disappeared. I ended up finding it after about
10 minutes of frantic searching, thankfully, and with the help of other
friendly Chileans from the small town of Coquimbo, who were very open and genuinely concerned about what happened to me.
~*~
On
our bike ride along the coast, we stopped for a while at a fish market. One man
pointed at me and yelled, “Brazil!” It wasn’t in the form of a question. I
laughed and shook my head.
“No eres brasileña?” [You’re not Brazilian?] he asked in surprise.
“No, soy estadounidense,” [No, I'm American] I told him.
This was in La Serena, 7 hours north of Santiago, the capital. Up here, more people have mistaken me for Brazilian, whereas further south, in Punta Arenas, there’s more the assumption that I’m either American or Dominican.
“No eres brasileña?” [You’re not Brazilian?] he asked in surprise.
“No, soy estadounidense,” [No, I'm American] I told him.
This was in La Serena, 7 hours north of Santiago, the capital. Up here, more people have mistaken me for Brazilian, whereas further south, in Punta Arenas, there’s more the assumption that I’m either American or Dominican.
~*~
One
of the stupidest things I could’ve done while here (and ever) was go trekking
with only one good eye. I'll explain. A few weeks ago on a Sunday, I joined my homestay mom
and dad, their daughter, her boyfriend, and Tessa on a trekking excursion. The
day before, I accidentally tore my contact lens (long story), 20 minutes before
we planned to leave to go kayaking. And of course I didn't remember to bring replacement lenses with me. I couldn’t go on the trip half blind and mentally
ill-prepared with this stress, so I put that off. The next day I wanted to join
in on the family’s outing. It wasn’t like I couldn’t see out of my right eye, everything
was just very blurry. Halfway through the trekking though, things got kind of
tricky. The ground was muddy, wet, and slippery in certain areas of the
reserve, and a few times we reached steep points…it would’ve been pretty
ugly if I fell because I would’ve busted myself open. But thankfully we made it back, all
of us in one piece!
~*~
On
our flight back to Punta Arenas from Santiago in late July during our week off
from work, we had a “layover" in another city called Puerto Montt. I was knocked
out at my window seat when suddenly a woman from the back of the plane started
screaming like crazy. This tore me from my sleep as I got up and turned around with the rest of
the passengers. The woman continued her chilling screams, and I propped myself up
on my knees in my seat to see what in the world happened to her. At first I thought
she was about to give birth, but then I saw that she was clutching her knee. “Pero
qué pasó?!” [What happened?!] people
were whispering fiercely to each other. I still was not 100% sure what the
problem was, but a doctor had to be called on board from inside the airport (we
were already on the ground) to tend to a problem she was having with her knee.
I had no idea if she fractured it (doing what though?), if she previously
had surgery on it and it was acting up… no idea. But I’m glad we were able to resolve
this while on the ground and not up in the air. This is the first time I
encountered something this scary (mostly the uncontrollable screaming was terrifying) on a
plane.
Friday, August 9, 2013
Shadowing experiences - Part 2
With a few students during arts and crafts |
This is a school for disabled youth ranging in age from adolescence to late twenties; most have Down syndrome, but there are a number of other disabilities represented, including autism spectrum disorder and cerebral palsy.
On my first day, one of the instructors introduced me to the class as Débora and pointed out my legs. "Miren las piernas de Débora!" [Look at Deborah's legs!] she says excitedly to engage the class. "Son muy largas! Y las mías son muy chiquititas!" [They're very long. And mine are very verrry small!]
By the end of the week (today!) several students were already calling me “Tía” (which translates to “aunt”, but this is also an endearing term to address an older female, someone who is a family member, close friend, or perhaps a mentor … “Tío” would be for a man), greeting me with kisses on the cheek, and offering me some of their food at snack time.
Most of the students are adults, but they lack the capability to comport themselves as such. I’ve seen crying (if a classmate pinches someone else or steals a cookie from another classmate at lunch, for example), pouting, teasing, tattletaling…. Behavior you’d typically see amongst children.
One of the assistants, upon seeing yet another student cry in the lunchroom, called out positively to the group, “Oigan, ustedes son jovenes. Deben ser felices! No tienen nada de que llorar. No tienen trabajo, no estrés, no nada!” [Hey, you’re all young. You should be happy! You don’t have anything to cry about. No work, no stress, nothing!]
During the summer of 2007, before my first year of high school, I volunteered at a pediatric rehabilitation and family wellness center nearby my home in New Jersey. While there, I worked with special needs children and babies, assisting with hippotherapy (therapeutic horse riding) and speech therapy sessions at the summer camp. I’ve never before had the opportunity to work with disabled youth in another country wherein the context of the treatment (language, culture, society) is much different. What isn't different, however, is the dedication of the therapists, teachers and assistants to the well-being and security of the special needs students and patients.
This experience has been rewarding. The students have such a big sense of humor, as well as huge hearts, smiles, and personalities. It’s wonderful that they are able to join a close-knit community in this school; it's a safe space for them to interact with others who care about them and are able to relate to their experiences.
At the end of the day, I engaged in deep conversations with the Director of the school and the wood-shop instructor. They both asked a lot about me, the education system in the states, what life is like for an African-American like myself back at home, if I’ve ever encountered racism in the U.S. or here in Chile (nope, never), where my family is from (Jamaica), how social security and health insurance work in the states, what our most commonly used form of ID is (in other countries it’s not always the driver’s license), and much more. These conversations were a way to share with the Director and wood-shop teacher a bit about my upbringing and the current systems in the U.S. (legal, political, economic, etc), and to learn from them a bit more about their own home nation.
I look forward to shadowing in the language school next week!
Friday, August 2, 2013
Self-discovery in Chile
In Viña del Mar, Chile with a statue of Gabriela Mistral, the
only Latin American woman to win the Nobel Prize in Literature
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What kinds of things? Well...
1) Laughter. I find a lot of things funny. It's like I'm being tickled all the time. In high school, my mother told me that I needed to tone it down a bit; laughing too much, even with close friends and family, was kind of a sign of immaturity. I was defensive at first, but I came to understand and agree with her. I've learned to dial my incessant chuckling back a bit, but I haven't sacrificed this facet of my personality. In a way, it makes me who I am. Laughter really is the best medicine anyone can get... and I like to overdose.
We've had quite a few funny moments with our homestay and throughout the trip. The most recent joke that comes to mind that my homestay mother made recently is that, in a few weeks, we would be able to see dreadlocks on her pregnant daughter's ultrasound because her daughter's boyfriend also has dreads.
Here are some other humorous and heart-warming moments we've had:
- The other two interns, our co-workers and I came up with nicknames for each other. This is common throughout Latin culture. These nicknames are endearing, usually picking on a certain unfavorable quality of the individual, and are said amongst family and friends (ironic, I know, but these are terms of endearment that may be difficult for any non-Latino to understand). For example, one might lovingly call an overweight relative "gordo" (fat), or a darker skinned friend "negra" (black). The nickname I earned here actually doesn't have anything to do with my physical features or personality. They started calling me “Danza Kuduro”, one of the best-known Latin songs ever. At one of the gatherings we had with one of our co-workers and her family and friends, I insisted they put on “Danza Kuduro” and that we all dance to it. Nobody was really into the music (insert shocked face here), so they teased me and started calling me “Danza Kuduro” after that ("Danza" for short).
- One thing Tessa, Anjalene and I find hilarious is that Chileans have oftentimes mistaken other Chileans for Americans when they’re seen with us. When we went to Viña del Mar, we spent the day with our homestay sister, but other Chileans constantly mistook her for an American because she was with us, three U.S. interns who are obviously foreign (especially me). This happened again in the metro a few days later with our homestay brother; a Chilean man noticed that we were all a little confused and looking about, so he came over and began asking our homestay brother in English if he needed help.
- Chileans like to call out or approach me, Tessa and Anjalene in English (mostly broken). “What your name?” was a question thrown at us in one of our walks through La Serena, or simple “Hi!”s and "Hello!"s during our bike ride along the coast within the town :) What friendly people.
2) During this trip, while co-habiting a big, beautiful two-story home with about ten other people (including the other interns and our big homestay family), I learned something else about myself. I tend to avoid situations that would require others to exert energy for me. Strange, I know. It's not that I'm not appreciative of the favors people offer, or that I think I'm a high and mighty individual who can do everything on her own without the help of anyone. Not at all. My concern is that I do not want to be a bother to anyone. Others have helped me realize that I take this concern a bit far.
I started reflecting on this after seeing how selfless Monica, my host mother, is. She does a lot for everyone who visits and lives in the house. Family members and friends always pass through, day and night. I don't think there is ever a quiet moment in the home. The kitchen, dining-room and living-room are constantly filled with laughter, loud conversations in Spanish, the blaring TV, and smoke from everyone's cigarettes. Monica is a stay-at-home mom and she truly enjoys her job. She cooks, cleans, does everyone's laundry, shops for groceries and other house items, takes care of the two house dogs, keeps smiles on all of our faces… She does so much. Sometimes I feel bad when I have to ask her for small things because she has many other things to worry about.
Tessa brought it to my attention that when I feel it would be a bother for someone to do something for me, I try to have them forget about it by saying, “Maybe later," "Never mind," "Some other time.”
This hesitance to discommode someone else in any way is something I developed throughout my years (only with non-family though; I don't have a problem asking my family for help and favors) and carried with me into adulthood. In retrospect, I really don't know why I thought it would be bothersome to ask my homestay mom to take the milk out of the fridge for me, or to ask the other intern if she would mind picking up an item for me at the store. It's quite silly that I try to have such a complaisant disposition all the time, even over small things. I suppose it is a bit of a juvenile characteristic of mine (children are the ones who typically have meek, passive attitudes with non-family), but it's something I will grow past over time.
3) I love food. I appreciate it much more now… the variety of flavors and dishes here (and the deliciousness of it all) blows my mind. The food that host mom has prepared during our time here is served with care, warmth, and love.
Among my favorite dishes are:
Sopaipilla [Fried bread]
Empanadas de queso, camarón, mariscos!! (cheese, shrimp, and shellfish)
Ceviche - minced raw sea bass in lemon juice
Pizza con palta [Avocado pizza]
Camarón a la parmesana [Parmesan Shrimp]
I'm looking forward to learning more about myself, the people here, and the country.
I started reflecting on this after seeing how selfless Monica, my host mother, is. She does a lot for everyone who visits and lives in the house. Family members and friends always pass through, day and night. I don't think there is ever a quiet moment in the home. The kitchen, dining-room and living-room are constantly filled with laughter, loud conversations in Spanish, the blaring TV, and smoke from everyone's cigarettes. Monica is a stay-at-home mom and she truly enjoys her job. She cooks, cleans, does everyone's laundry, shops for groceries and other house items, takes care of the two house dogs, keeps smiles on all of our faces… She does so much. Sometimes I feel bad when I have to ask her for small things because she has many other things to worry about.
Tessa brought it to my attention that when I feel it would be a bother for someone to do something for me, I try to have them forget about it by saying, “Maybe later," "Never mind," "Some other time.”
This hesitance to discommode someone else in any way is something I developed throughout my years (only with non-family though; I don't have a problem asking my family for help and favors) and carried with me into adulthood. In retrospect, I really don't know why I thought it would be bothersome to ask my homestay mom to take the milk out of the fridge for me, or to ask the other intern if she would mind picking up an item for me at the store. It's quite silly that I try to have such a complaisant disposition all the time, even over small things. I suppose it is a bit of a juvenile characteristic of mine (children are the ones who typically have meek, passive attitudes with non-family), but it's something I will grow past over time.
3) I love food. I appreciate it much more now… the variety of flavors and dishes here (and the deliciousness of it all) blows my mind. The food that host mom has prepared during our time here is served with care, warmth, and love.
Among my favorite dishes are:
Sopaipilla [Fried bread]
Empanadas de queso, camarón, mariscos!! (cheese, shrimp, and shellfish)
Ceviche - minced raw sea bass in lemon juice
Pizza con palta [Avocado pizza]
Camarón a la parmesana [Parmesan Shrimp]
I'm looking forward to learning more about myself, the people here, and the country.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
Shadowing experiences at a rehabilitation center in Patagonia Chile
Corporación de Rehabilitación Club de Leones Cruz del Sur,
Punta Arenas, Chile
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Punta Arenas is geographically isolated from central Chile. The efforts of the center and the help it has received from former fellows and other employees to provide extensive support to the disadvantaged and disabled in the community are tremendous. Medical conditions such as Down syndrome, cerebral palsy, and autism spectrum disorder are most commonly seen. During part of the day, Tessa, Anjalene and I are shadowing the rehabilitation specialists and during the rest of the day, we're performing data analyses of a sleep study that was conducted among college students in both Chile and Peru.
Main activity room in the center |
A couple of patient cases
- The cases at the center aren’t always “uncomplicated”. Not all patients that come in with a certain disability are from “uncomplicated” backgrounds or circumstances, where they are raised by two loving parents who strive to do their best in making their lives as unburdensome as possible. I’ve seen one child (about four years old) with cerebral palsy in a therapy session with a kinesiologist. The child's father had a mental disability of his own, and the mother appeared depressed and much older than the dad.
- The center's pediatrician shared with me the story of a 15-year-old girl whose several-month old baby had been hospitalized since his birth. She was raped by a family member, chose to carry her pregnancy to term, gave birth to a baby with innumerable complications, and couldn't bring him home because he’s been hospitalized his entire life.
These stories and many others are heart-wrenching. It takes immersion experiences to see and understand the complexity of such situations that others are enduring. Unfortunate circumstances are globally ubiquitous and variable in their magnitude.
What can I do? I always ask myself this question when I learn about another person's hardships. Oftentimes I feel utterly useless. However, I'm learning more and more that even though I may not have the education and training to give a troubled individual therapeutic treatment for his ailments (mental or physical), let alone the wisdom to give advice about overcoming adversities, there are a couple of important things that I can do: Listen and respect.
Listen to the person's story to understand what she is going through, and allow the account of her difficulties to humble you and incite within you a desire to offer support and comfort. Respect her cultural upbringing, socioeconomic background, and lifestyle, at least one of which will have played a part in the incipience of her afflictions. Listening to and respecting others allows us to play a role (no matter how small) in remedying their hurt and troubles.
Sunday, July 28, 2013
Gallivanting in the world's narrowest and longest country
Thanks so much to various programs and
scholarships, I am able to embark on global explorations for service and research initiatives. This summer, the Harvard School of Public Health MIRT program flew me to Chile. I've grown to love the country. Every so often, whether it's at work, a family
gathering with my homestay, or a night out with the other interns, I am
constantly reminding myself that I am in Chile. CHILE. I’ve been
approaching everything with excitement and an open mind, looking to take
advantage of everything while here because I’m pretty sure I won’t get the
chance to come back!
The MIRT (Multidisciplinary International
Research Training) program through the Harvard School of Public Health emphasizes research, interventions, active
public health involvement, and especially cultural exchange in international communities. At work, things have been a little slow. We are shadowing specialists at the rehabilitation center and conducting data analyses
of research studies that were already conducted in Chile and Peru, but communication with our
research mentor has been fairly stagnant since our arrival.
· Sunday & Monday (July 21-22) - We stayed with some of our homestay’s extended family
in Santiago. Our flight arrived rather late on Sunday night, but we went out
with the family’s son anyway. He drove us around, took us to the mall and a
few shops, but most were closed at that time of night. The Costanera Center was still open for a little while longer, so we took a walk around there. The Costanera shopping mall (made up of 6-floors) was finished being built last year (2012), and it is the largest in South America. This picture does not do it justice.
We rode all the way to the other side of the coast where we reached a pueblito (little town) called Coquimbo. We walked through the market, shops, and spoke to a few of the locals. Our endpoint was the cross at the top of the hill in the town: Cruz del Tercer Milenio (Third Millennium Cross). There was no way we could ride our bikes up the hill because it was too steep. Instead, we pushed them up with us. That was quite a workout. But we made it! And from the cross we were able to see all of Coquimbo and La Serena.
We
hope to pick things up in the next several weeks of our time here and successfully
complete the program requirements (which include writing papers for submission to journals and
making a final presentation). While I of course prefer and enjoy the fun facets of this
experience (meeting others, practicing Spanish, exploring the region, etc), I’d like to take advantage of this opportunity to
become an expert on my project, gain proficiency in a statistical software (SPSS) for data analysis, and somehow engage in the work of the
specialists at the center.
This
past week, the rehabilitation center was closed for vacation, so the other two interns (Anjalene and Tessa)
and I flew up from Punta Arenas to the capital, Santiago, to explore more of Chile. I have never done so much traveling in such a short period of time in my
life before. It’s a miracle that I haven’t gotten sick from the constant flying, car rides, and walking.
Timeline of our one week trip in Northern Chile
La Costanera, Santiago, Chile |
On Monday, we explored downtown Santiago with the
family’s son and his sister. They were great people to hang out with. I bought a few souvenirs (which I waited to buy here
because apparently they're more expensive in Punta Arenas. The further north
you go, the cheaper the things are said to be), we ate out for lunch (I ordered
an avocado pizza. Absolutely delicious), walked through some shops, went up to a few
sites that allowed us to see all of Santiago, explored the central plaza, and did more walking.
Plaza de Armas, Santiago, Chile
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Santiago, Chile |
· Tuesday – Anjalene, Tessa, our Santiago homestay family's daughter and I took a bus in the morning to Viña del Mar, which is a small city inside of a larger one, Valparaíso. It’s about an hour from Santiago. We went for the day on a 6 hour tour of both cities. We met people from other parts of the world on the bus (including Brazil, Colombia, Spain, Germany, etc.), took many photos, and ate out at Pizza Hut. Viña is gorgeous.
· Wednesday – Tessa and I left
Tuesday night for a 7-hour bus ride up north from Santiago to La Serena. We
slept on the way there, checked into our hostel the following morning, and
explored the small town. We went to a Japanese Garden, a free zoo, the plaza, cathedral, local market, beach (where we took
a nap. I woke up forgetting where I was), and horseback riding (on the beach). I hadn’t
been horseback riding in such a long time. I remember being on a horse, but I
don’t think I’ve ridden one this far of a distance before. It was very fun. The young boy who came with us on our ride was great to talk to. He was only 14 and knew so much about horses.
We rode all the way to the other side of the coast where we reached a pueblito (little town) called Coquimbo. We walked through the market, shops, and spoke to a few of the locals. Our endpoint was the cross at the top of the hill in the town: Cruz del Tercer Milenio (Third Millennium Cross). There was no way we could ride our bikes up the hill because it was too steep. Instead, we pushed them up with us. That was quite a workout. But we made it! And from the cross we were able to see all of Coquimbo and La Serena.
Third Millennium Cross, Coquimbo, Chile
The tallest monument in South America
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Coquimbo, Chile |
· Friday – We took a night bus again on Thursday from La Serena and
arrived back in Santiago early on Friday morning…around 7AM. We planned to take another bus leaving at 10AM to Olmué, a
small town in between Santiago and Valparaíso that’s home to La Campana, one of
the top 5 national parks in Chile. To be honest, I wasn’t up for the hiking at
all, which was supposed to last for about 6 hours. I was tired from all the bus
travel, incessant activity and walking for the past several days,
but Tessa was so intent on going with a head cold, burning
sinuses, and pumped attitude. That motivated me to suck up my fatigue and join in. We only live once right?
- I'd gone hiking once before in Guatemala (up a volcano. Volcán Pacaya), and I completely forgot about how much I disliked it. I loved the scenery once we got to the top, but the walk up was a struggle. This was the same case at La Campana. I fought to keep up with Tessa and her friend who is from Colorado and goes hiking all the time back home. I never go hiking, so this was rough. I’m glad I kept pushing through. I'm not really a nature-y person, but I admit, the wind and beauty of the walk was nice.
· Saturday – We came back at night from our hike on Friday (which lasted
about 4 hours, not 6, since we arrived late and had to end early). We went out in Santiago on Friday night and
relaxed all day Saturday. We ordered a pizza, relaxed with the family, chatted,
watched movies/shows, and I pretty
much wrote in my journal for half the day. I was so sore from the hike.
· Sunday – Our flight back to Punta Arenas was at 9AM. We got back in
the afternoon. My first thoughts once I gave my (original) homestay mom a hug
and kiss in the airport were, “It’s so good to be back home.” :)
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